Why You should Not Have Sex Right Away
I always say, “this” or “that” is my most important dating advice, but I can’t stress how very important this piece of advice is.
DON’T HAVE SEX TOO SOON! (If you are seeking a serious relationship.)
Why? You like this person and they like you. Why can’t you just do what you want to do? You’re adults. Times have changed.
Technically, there is no problem with that at all. But here is the problem: sex doesn’t go hand in hand with love or even attraction.
You think you are sending them the right message. You think you are showing them that you find them attractive. You don’t want the night to end so you can spend as much time with them as possible. It sounds cute, but that is not the actual message you are sending by sleeping with someone too soon.
The true message you are sending is one of INSECURITY and DESPERATION. They see a NEEDY person with SELF-ESTEEM issues. You don’t care who it is, you just want someone to show you affection. And anyone who rushes to try to get you to have sex too soon is expecting you to be NEEDY enough to step right into a sexual arrangement without romantic commitment.
If you truly like a guy or girl, enjoy the dating experience of falling in love and getting to know each other. KNOW CONFIDENTLY that if this is meant to be, intimacy will get there soon enough. You can wait. Waiting displays CONFIDENCE. People are ATTRACTED TO CONFIDENCE. This is the kind of attraction that keeps the calls coming; not how easy it was to sleep together.
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