Isn’t Dating Is Supposed To Be Fun
We are going to start off with a crazy concept that many people will criticize us for. We are taking a big risk sharing this dating secret with you, but we wouldn't share this if we didn't think it will make the difference for you.
Dating for fun is easy. You don't need advice on how to date for fun. Anyone can do it. Meet someone and set up a date, meet someone else and set up a date and then repeat repeatedly. No strings attached. You are just having fun. That’s the whole point right?
There will be no disappointments because you are not looking for anything, just someone to go out on a date with.
If it is so much FUN why are so many people unhappy as a result?
Well, here is the problem. Some people think that they can date for fun while seriously looking for love. We hear it all of the time: “I’ll have fun dating until I meet the right one.” Or “I’m just going to see where this relationship will lead. You never know.”
WRONG! It’s a terrible dating mistake that people make right from the beginning.
So if you are looking to find a specific kind of RELATIONSHIP you should not be “SEEING WHERE THINGS GO” under the pretense of dating casually. If so, YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME! Telling a prospect that you are casually dating until you fall in love, will allow them to TAKE ADVANTAGE of that grey area. You aren't being specific or honest with them... and YOURSELF!
Remember, people who say that they are dating for fun send out the message that they are not dating for a serious relationship! THE OPPOSITE OF SERIOUS IS FUN! When you call yourself dating for fun and meeting someone who is also dating for fun, there is no seriousness involved. There is no urgency. You are just filling their time and wasting your own (if you are seeking a serious relationship).
Now you were willing to sacrifice the truth (that you really want to find true love) just because you want to seem independent, cool and easygoing. Your friends might have even told you that you should just play it cool or you’ll scare them away. But you are not doing yourself any favors. If your honesty scares off a person who only wants to date casually, that’s a WONDERFUL thing! They will get out of the way so you can focus your energy towards the right path.
If you want to date seriously, be very upfront with yourself and others. Understand what that truly means. It won’t be fun all of the time. It’s not supposed to be. It’s the mission to discover SERIOUS love!
You can have a fun time with your date, but DON'T DATE FOR FUN!
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