Telling someone how to be happily single is as possible as being able to convince a lion to become a vegetarian while you are covered in fresh blood. There is that one in a zillion chance that the lion will actually refrain from taking a bite of you, but it we all pretty much expect that the lion will not pay attention to a word you’re saying and… well you know the rest. I’m not calling you a lion, but life is more or less the lion… hard to figure out and sometimes difficult to change. However, I will feebly try to share my knowledge of how to achieve happiness while being single.
First you need to understand why it is important to be HAPPILY SINGLE while you are looking for THE ONE. When you are happily single you will become IRRISISTABLE to everyone. The best part of being HAPPILY SINGLE is that you won’t notice if people are not interested in you. It won’t even matter in your universe!
The only way to be HAPPILY SINGLE is to BE IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF. I know, I know! You’ve heard it a thousand times and it’s totally fine to call me out on being corny. But seriously, it’s true!
Many people claim to love themselves but I feel as if there is a titanic difference between caring for yourself and truly loving yourself and that is where people get it mixed up. You can care for yourself by providing the best for yourself with outwardly pleasures, such as surrounding yourself with luxury, and treating yourself often. I think those things are great if you can obtain them. But it doesn’t work to just get new shoes, plastic surgery, or new toys. It’s not about what’s happening on the outside, what you look like or how YOU THINK people view you.
It’s about what’s going on inside.
Do you like yourself?
If you were someone else, would you hang out with you?
If so then prove it… Hang out with yourself. Talk to yourself. Ask yourself tough questions. Laugh with yourself.
In order to truly love yourself, you must ENJOY BEING ALONE. You don’t always have to be alone, but when you are alone, you aren’t wishing you could just call someone to join you and it would make it more enjoyable. You should enjoy the time you spend alone.
If you find you don’t like yourself so much, you should not be focusing on physical imperfections. It should be about liking your personality and matching your behavior to others the same as you’d like to be treated. Do you have respect for yourself? Recognize your personality strengths and weaknesses. If you have to see a therapist to work things through, then do it! The act of seeking help is on the road to loving one’s self.
Analyze and MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS. When I say manage your emotions I am not telling you to be fake or dishonest about how you feel, but many negative feelings stem from regret. Being able to manage your emotions means being able to separate how you feel with ultimately making the right choices for your future. You can avoid over or under reacting, focusing your energy toward fulfilling your personal goals. No regrets.
AVOID NEGATIVE PEOPLE. You know who they are. It could be a cousin that always sees the worst in everything and everyone, or a friend that always trash talks or makes you feel small. Make sure that the people around you are people who support you and aren’t bringing you down. I know this is hard to do because there are some people you can’t escape from like coworkers and family. Do what you can to avoid them. It does wonders to help keep a clear mind towards happiness.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE AND REINFORCEMENTS. It will rub off on you, but most of all you must refrain from speaking and thinking negatively yourself.
OCCUPY YOUR FREE TIME. Don’t waste time worrying about all of the things that are not the way you want it in your life on your down time. Do things you like doing any chance you get… hobbies, past times, whatever. The ones that are free are the best because you can do them as often as you’d like. Fill your time with activities that will not bore you or stress you out. You only live once and who knows how long a life will be, so live the best you can every day.
STAY POSITIVE. This is not so easy to achieve when life throws us sucker punches every day, but you have to bounce back as quickly as you possibly can. Always look towards A BETTER TOMORROW and tomorrow is only a day away (just like the song in “Annie” or the last words from” Gone With The Wind”). You have to keep a positive outlook on life in order to be happy. You must be confident in your positive outlook. Let no negative comments by others change your view. There is always a tomorrow. You would not allow someone you loved wallow in sadness, right? Then never do that to yourself.
Smile therapy has always helped me. Think of great thoughts and smile. Put all of your hopes and dreams into that smile. It’s fascinating how your smile becomes infectious.
APRRECIATE THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE that support you. Be humble and grateful for life and the gifts in it, though sometimes they seem so few, they are what you have.
The last note I have about loving yourself is to never give up on the possibility of meeting THE ONE. Be CONFIDENT and know that you are on the journey to meeting them. You don’t have to rush into a relationship with DESPERATION. If you get desperate and give in to Mr. or Mrs. Wrong, THE ONE may be passing you by. You must avoid that by staying focused on the definition of the kind of love you are looking for and determining if your suitor is on the same page. If the relationship has you wondering where you stand in the early stages, you must be strong enough to end it. So what, you’ll be alone starting over from scratch. If you love yourself, it’s no big deal.
You must be PATIENT and have FAITH you will get all of the wonderful things you deserve in your life.
These are the keys to being HAPPILY SINGLE!
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