How To Deal With A Jealous Partner
Jealousy is a valid emotion that we all have experienced at some point in our lives. However, it's no fun being falsely accused of being unfaithful. Right from the start, you should take the reigns and open up the lines of communication again.
In order to deal with a person who is jealous you should BE EMPATHETIC. Think about how you would feel if the tables were turned and you felt jealous. It doesn’t matter if you agree with their point of view or not. The exercise of sympathizing with them will bring you closer to figuring out the best way to reach out to them, providing you are indeed willing to make this relationship work.
Many people will take up the defensive approach. Look at it this way: if you are innocent, there is no need to prove anything. Be confident in the truth.
Validate their feelings with a calm discussion about their jealousy but be clear about how it makes you feel to not feel trusted. Let them know how it hurts you. Depending on the jealousy and your willingness to compromise, this kind of communication will strengthen your relationship.
Discuss this openly. Perhaps even agree to disagree.
Weigh in the argument your jealous partner claims and see if it is something you can modify. Ultimately, depending on the severity of the jealousy and how deeply it is rooted (baggage), your partner may need therapy to overcome this problem.
Don't let that be a turn off. Let’s be clear on this, therapy is not for crazy people! Therapy is a great opportunity to work out past issues that affect one's ability to live happily in the present.
The earlier you deal with jealousy issues the better your chances of determining if it’s a deal-breaker or something you can work through together. Your understanding can alleviate some of the conflict but DO NOT bend over backwards to please your partner if it makes you miserable. This will only lead to you resenting your partner and dysfunctional behaviors in your relationship long-term.
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