Sadly, in the process of looking for that special someone, we often get off track by giving into temporary forms of gratification and affection. It’s often referred to as the BOOTY CALL.
The Definition Of A Booty Call:
-vb 1: the act of calling or contacting a person for the sole purpose of having sex.
n 2: a person that is the recipient of such a call or the caller.
It's important to know that a booty call is a sexual arrangement and NOT DATING.
Some people don’t even realize that they are in this agreement until it’s much too late to salvage even friendship.
When both parties are in full agreement with this superficial pact, it’s not certain how long it could last but the mutual agreement usually comes from a straightforward conversation about the terms or performance of the act with NO MENTION OF a RELATIONSHIP status attached.
Unfortunately, in many cases, those looking for a loving relationship will simply SETTLE for what they can get out of DESPERATION for affection and LACK OF SELF-ESTEEM to stand up for better treatment. They feel that is the closest thing that they can get to a real relationship or simply delusional that things may turn around some day. It is a relationship trap that hey can never advance or reverse.
If you are looking for a serious relationship, these are some things to look to avoid too soon:
o Raunchy conversation detailing sexual fantasies and an avoidance of intellectual conversation of any kind is an obvious way to know what your dating partner is initiating. In other words, their desire is to have a lack of communication about anything other than sex! Only sex is on their mind and sex is ALL that they want. They are not interested in getting to know you as a person.
o Physical contact way, way too soon.
o Lack of desire to meet in public.
o Lack of desire to participate in dating activies deemed as romantic non-sexually.
o Last minute calls to meet up.
o Suddenly busy the next day or even right after sex.
Because of the intimate physical contact, it is very easy for an individual to confuse romance with carnal desires. Any confusion in this can lead to painful feelings of abuse and rejection. This is precisely why there are so many particular “don’ts” you’ll need to practice and enforce to keep your time from being wasted on a booty call’s exploits. And again, communication is so important. You must make it clear to the person that you are dating that you desire the personal connection between yourself and another person, which is the one human need that will be missing from such an arrangement.
Booty calls are A WASTE OF YOUR TIME if you are truly serious about meeting someone special in your life. It will interfere in the preparation, journey, and self-esteem that you will need to meet your potential mate and rob you of your unknowing opportunity. Seizing that opportunity should be ever most in your sights if you hope to succeed!
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