After you’ve decided to break up with someone, give it some time before reaching out to that person because you could be putting the nail in the coffin, damaging the healing time they need to get over the rejection. Give it a good 2 to 3 weeks. Try to contact them by email.
o Don’t talk about your new dates or relationships.
o Call or Email to see how the other is doing, the most once a week, the least once a month. This keeps the connection going.
o Don’t talk about your relationship and what went wrong. If they start, you must tell them that it’s too soon to talk about that.
o Meeting them in a public place is fine. Refrain from spending time with them alone! It’s too easy for them to become emotional and you’ll end up hurting them more. The safest way to do it is to meet for coffee or 1 drink.
o Don’t flirt. Flirting leads to sex.
o Don’t sleep with them for old time sake or because it’s comfortable.
Be available to talk to them when they need someone to talk to. This is now your friend. You don’t want to lead them on and hurt them more, do you? Also, give yourself the romantic space you wanted.
o Don’t sleep with their friends. This further creates a rift between you. If there is a strong attraction between you and the friend, be courteous to let your ex know ahead of time. They may not like it, but you are friends, right. They can’t stop you from dating anyone, but do this out of courtesy.
o Help them find somebody new. Why not? You are friends now and there is nothing between you any more. If you are on the fence about that, this act should help you too. Set them up on a few dates. It could help them see that there are options for them, restore their trust in you, and make amends.
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