If you are looking for EASY HOOK-UPS please pay attention.
The best place to find easy hook ups would be the old-fashioned classifieds, or specific hook up dating websites that are all over the Internet.
The general population is the worst place for you to find this kind of arrangement! It is possible, but tread carefully when dealing with people who say that they are just dating casually… especially just after you said you were doing the same. It’s sad, but within the general population, you will meet people who will actually SETTLE for a hook-up, but are secretly looking for SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS.
When you muster up the nerve to break it to them, that after spending time together, you still want to date around, they may not take it very well. Sometimes the end result can be as simple as a rainfall of tears to a restraining order. You can avoid drama by take your stand making it clear from the beginning.
DON’T SEND OUT MIXED SIGNALS by trying to get to get them to open up about their feelings. When you are asked, where you see yourself in 5 years, you might not want to say that you see yourself married with kids even if it is true. Keep things simple. You shouldn’t be having that conversation with them. It’s totally okay for you to be unsure of what you want, but that is not what you want to leave as an impression to others.
LEAVE NOTHING TO THE IMAGINATION. Don’t try to make the sound of hooking up seem cool by saying that you are just “seeing where things go.” The problem with that statement is the word “things”. It’s vague and leaves much to the imagination. BE COMPLETELY HONEST.
For those who are commitment phobic, just saying, “I don’t want a relationship” is not a fair statement in truth. When you’re engaging with people, you are forming relationships, personal or not. For instance, when describing the people in our lives no matter how insignificant we always say "my", friend, boss, TV repairman, classmate, booty call…
Denying a relationship its validity can cause permanent psychological damage to the person you are seeing. Remember, this is a human being. As well, not validating relationships implies shame. There should be no shame in dating how ever you are doing it.
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