So here it is… the great game of all games. Here is the scenario: I met John and I really had a great time talking to him on Thursday. It’s Saturday and I spot John at a party jus as I knew he would be. I am going to pretend I don’t see him and wait until he notices me. Maybe he’ll come over. I will let him CHASE ME.
How many of us have done this and how many of us still do? We wait for the other person to CHASE us. We giggle as we run away much to slow to get away in the hopes of being caught. There are even books written about how to do execute this tactic to get the one you like to declare their true feelings for you.
First you entice and make the person feel a connection to you, and then you disconnect allowing them to miss you, tease with a re-connection and continue back and forth connecting and disconnecting until you’re blue in the face.
The theory is that if you do this, the person you like will go crazy chasing down and you’ll both live happily ever after haven being caught.
WRONG!
This is kind of pattern perfect for superficial relationships and booty calls. Nothing loss, nothing gained, because you don’t need to share your feelings with these kinds of partners.
You can’t start a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP by playing games. You are starting off your relationship on the wrong foot, by not being truthful and honest about your feelings and pretending a lie to get the attention you really want. In any other town, it may be a good tactic, but in New York City, it will backfire on you, especially if you really like the person. Each and every single person has so many options to date, so while you are ignoring the person that you actually like, it’s just as easy for them to give up on chasing you to pursue someone that will respond to their advances. You’ll be wondering what ever happened to there. They stopped chasing. Was I not good enough?
But what is the problem with this if it works, you ask? What type of person actually seeks out rejection and loves it to the point it will do anything to be around rejection on tap? What kind of person is this and would you marry such a person? Would you raise children with such a person? You want your children growing up with someone who thinks it’s fun to be rejected.
It’s just a disaster any way you play the game.
Now a healthier way of doing this if you are truly into the HIGH OF BEING CHASED and you meet someone you like and you are getting along with them pretty well is to simply have a truthful conversation with your love interest. Tell them that you like a lot of attention and it would be nice to have the feeling of being chased every once in a while. Want to play?
Now it takes on a whole new thrill!
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